The Marriage Code Part III

Unlocking the code to your marriage will take work, dedication, patience,you'll need enthusiasm, intelligence, creativity and most of all, God's help. Moving into the dynamics and living above the line are the backbone of a successful marriage. Because we live in fallen world, sin abounds and temptations are everywhere. Remember though, Jesus has overcome the world and since He crucified our flesh for us, we no longer have to yield to sin's power and control. The victory is ours if we'll just reach out and take it for all its worth.

At the end of chapter 1, Bill and Pam list some questions meant for dialogue over dinner or a cup of coffee. Take these to heart, spend time thinking about them, learn to truly appreciate your spouse for who he is. Make your love last a lifetime.

Attempts to live below the line creates distrust, insecurity and will always be unsuccessful. A husband and wife do themselves a world of good to find out what makes eachother feel secure and successful, loved and respected, and most importantly, accepted by one another just as God has accepted each spouse.


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The Marriage Code Part II

Knowing the marriage code sure makes a world of difference. Bill and Pam Farrel tell us in their book, The Marriage Code, the username for wives is wife and the password is success which gives her access into a workable relationship with her husband. A woman's greatest desire is to connect with her husband emotionally, spiritually and financially. She wants her husband to experience the same emotional fullness she does. I have to agree with Bill and Pam. Come on ladies, think about it. Do we not want our hubbies to feel the same things we feel, understand how we understand and love us like we want to be loved. Let's be honest now. I know I am guilty of this. What happened to the giving part of the relationship? All of a sudden somehow, somewhere, as wives we begin to get caught up in the selfishness of being a spouse and the next thing you know, life is all about us. Not good....

Bill and Pam also say that the username for husband is husband and the password is security. Using these gives husband's access into workable relationships with their wives. His greatest desire is to help his wife succeed at what she wants to do in life. Meeting a wife's security need first in all things. This goes against a man's most basic instincts, but if a husband accomplishes this task, he draws his wife towards him and the relationship becomes relaxed. All simply because of the marriage code that can radically change a marriage.

Knowing issues within our marriage can make a world of difference once we know how to access the marriage codes that provide succession our husband's and security for us wives.


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A Tribute to Dusty - a Fine Buddy Indeed

Today, Dusty went home to heaven. It was sudden, so sad and sorrowful. Tiffany is heartbroken. She had Dustbucket since she was nine years old. He was bleeding some on Thursday, Tiffy called the vet and he was going to come at the beginning of the week. Bad call indeed, Dusty never made it.

He came to us out of a pasture, calm and gentle and full of life. As a youngster, Dusty would follow us everywhere we went when we were outside with him. One time, he even stepped inside the door from the backyard ready to come inside our home. He was so humanized. We loved him so very much. He was definitely a part of our family and it was not hard for him to weasel his way into our lives the way he did.

He grew to became a stunning boy, showing nicely in 4-H, the arena and trail. Dusty became Tiffy’s buddy; comforting her, loving her and staying by her side. She’d spend hours brushing him, bathing and just hugging his big, strong neck, sharing her dreams and sorrows with him. He would nudge Kenny's side as Ken was building a pen for the sheep when Dusty was about nine years young. Tahlya and Nathen loved riding him and what a love he was to anyone on his back. This past spring Chrissy got to show him and then this summer Tiffany enjoyed her last showing with Dusty. He did wonderful. What a pair Tiffany and Dusty made.

When Jeff Murray, Dusty's farrier, would trim his feet, Dusty would turn around and take off Jeff's hat with his lips. Dusty loved water and would play with the hose when we filled up the water trough. He'd grab the hose with his teeth and throw his head all over, getting Jesse all wet while she was standing by for her own drink.
Dusty was gentle with all creatures beneath his feet whether it was Tahlya as a toddler or a puppy that had escaped its mommy's reach. He was like a person when he touched you with his muzzle. He was always so curious and would come up to you, in your bubble and sniff your breath as if to say, "Hello." Dusty so carefully would take an apple from Nathen's hand without ever touching Nathen's hand or fingers.

Just about one month ago I was with Tiffy while she was working Dusty and Jesse. While I was standing on the outside of the round pen, I felt something push me gently on my back. I turned around and Dusty's gigantic rear end was against my back and his head turned towards me, eyes staring at mine letting me know he wanted his rump scratched. It was hilarious. He'd actually backed himself against me while I was leaning against the chain link fence. He didn't want me to forget him while i was watching Tiffy work Jesse. I just laughed, squeezed out of the way of the fence and gave his rump a nice long scratching.

We learned so much from you Dusty, like how to enjoy life, be silly, curious and relax. How everything is worth exploring and nothing should be taken for granted. Thank you Dusty, for your many lessons in life.

We truly miss you Dusty. Rest in peace, run free in heaven, graze and lie in the warmth of God’s love. Life will truly not be the same without you in it.

The Marriage Code

My husband and I have been reading The Marriage Code by Bill and Pam Farrel and wanted to share a few things we thought might interest all who are married, and those who might be one day.

Discovering our own secret love languages has imperical value these days. We can find this language through understanding the secret code in marriages. Living in a world that uses codes has its advantages. We have usernames and passwords that get us into our email, facebook, twitter, eBay, blogspot, myspace, craigs list, amazon accounts, why would we not think there might be a code to delve inside the best parts of our relationships? Well there is. Taken right from Bill and Pam's book are a few tidbits to get yo thinking.

* It is obvious when the code is in place because your relationship works well.

* It is just as obvious when the code is not in place because almost everything is out of sync.

* Entering the marriage code into your relationship is a daily exercise. In the same way that you need to enter a username and password into your computer each time you start it up, your love relationship needs an access code every day.

* The marriage code is based on the most common needs that men and women have.


Relationships are not as simplistic as you may have well found out by now. Men and women have different needs at the core of their very beings. These core needs shape how life is approached and how relationships are interacted within. Bill and Pam believe every person has these two core needs within them; the need for security and success. Security being the belief it is safe to be who we are. Success being the belief that our lives are workable.

Read more each day to find out what makes The Marriage Code such a life changing book every married couple should be reading!Whether you have figured out the marriage code in your own relationship or not, this book will give you keen insight to help other married couples. It can also be a valuable tool used in premarital counseling to give engaged couples an edge on their lifetime commitment of marriage.